How do stereotypes hinder career
With a woman, successfully building the career associated with many stereotypes. If she is married, the "poor husband, she crushed it." If there are no children, the "all clear, it's just a lot of time to work." If you have children, "poor children are brought up without a mother, but so what, that a lot of money, money can not buy love children." How to deal with them?
We all come from childhood, and for the first time (and sometimes life) we use the role models that have been adopted in the family, community and society as a whole.
Often, a woman does not take action that would help her build a happy life, because immediately said "no" to opportunities. In fact the woman did not interfere with stereotypes, and she did. Great success reaching those who are not afraid of difficulties, who breaks the limits and beyond the boundaries of convention. So I would advise every woman engaged in a career or business, keep in mind that all listed below - stereotypes.
There are "male" and "female" occupations
Not really. Of course, there are various studies on gender balance in occupations that men have more IT, and HR less. But let's be honest: today, a woman can be found in almost any position in any sphere. One of my friends - the director Pipe Plant, the other manages construction projects, the third operates patients with cancer.
What did you want to become a child? I - a kindergarten teacher, and very interesting, with the result that I found my calling in working with people and mentoring. Always fun to compare how the teenage dreams are related to their future profession. For example, one US study found that 80% of girls of all ages want to be doctors. In fact, in the United States among doctors 65% of men and 35% women. Of course, the views of the profession with age vary greatly, but the difference in percentage is still very characteristic. What happens in a few years, between dream and reality? Do you realize that it's not yours? It becomes too difficult? Parents impose the choice? I think the truth is somewhere in the middle. Once we have worked with women candidates for top-position in the air carrier company, and it explains his motivation: "You know, my grandfather as a child brought up - a pilot and a veteran of the war. I knew by heart all models of fighters and civilian aircraft and it appears that she will once sit at the helm, and my grandfather would be proud of me. But parents are even forbidden to think about it. In the end, I just entered the MAI as an engineer, and then began the 1990s. So getting the work of the executive director in this company, I have to somehow draw near to his dream. "
Another example - when a woman can not withstand the "men's" work: for example, when it comes to surgery, many women prefer her other medical specialization, because it is an incredible burden, and not everyone is willing to sacrifice personal life for a career in this direction. But I have not heard that the woman went there only because they hinder men.
All catch up to 30 years
30 years - the magic number in the public consciousness. The woman is constantly under pressure: you have to make a career of 30 years, because the employer needs young and active. You should give birth before 30 years, otherwise then it will be too late. How to combine all this in such a short time - is unclear. Do not limit yourself artificially. I know a lot of successful women, and they all have very different way, "gaining" harmony. For example, one gave birth to two children already in 18-20 years, and was at first convinced that it is waiting for a quiet life housewives. Today, along with her sister, she manages the food holding company and has recently opened a medical business. At the same time, I am familiar with a number of women who have decided on a child for 40 years and did not regret that have not done so before. There are those who have made fundamental changes in the profession closer to 35: Someone abandoned in favor of a corporate career blogerstva someone opened his business. There is a former PR-director of a large corporation, which works as a stylist. There is a former director of a large enterprise, which has opened a small travel agency. Recently I talked to female candidates under the age of 60 years, who recently for the third time married and honeymoon turned into kayaking.
There is no single recipe for happiness, and foolish to think that everything should be done in 30 years.
A successful career woman in unhappy in my personal life
Have you ever noticed how many stereotypes associated with successful career woman? If she is married, the "poor husband, she crushed it." If there are no children, the "all clear, it's just a lot of time on his career." If you have children, "poor children are brought up without a mother, but so what, that a lot of money, money can not buy love children." Lecturer at Harvard University Kebeyn Olivia Fox notes that women often stops the belief that powerful women scare men and have to sacrifice personal life. Even on those who are (or at all) is not interested in marriage, put the stamp. If a man - a single, a woman - a spinster. When Janet Napolitano, former US Secretary of Homeland Security, was appointed, critics said that her loneliness to help her "to spend more time at work." Let us learn not to take into account the opinion of the people unimportant to you: keep and find people who will support you in difficulties and share your values. In addition, we never know which way taxied our career. A friend of mine met her future husband while working as a marketer, replenished the family budget, mainly spouses. She now heads a large company, and her husband is engaged in three children.
The man - the enemy of
Healthy feminism - it's good, but proclaimed diversity has a downside: the situation is often perceived as "all oppress each other." According to a study Kontakt InterSearch Russia, 30% of female executives have faced gender discrimination at work or in employment. This is certainly a big number, with which you want to do something, but still most of the women recognized that men helped and supported them in their careers. Success is achieved not only through professional knowledge, but also personal and emotional intelligence competencies. The position of "all against me," or "they do not understand me" will not lead to anything good: take the time to meet with colleagues and superiors close, work on mutual trust. Communicate with co-workers, do not be afraid to talk about their successes, offer assistance, be "his": This is one of the most effective ways to fight stereotypes in people's minds. Another piece of advice: when you reach a certain status, try to be an example to other women. Do not be afraid to take on the role of mentor. Your experience and exchange of best practices is required to inspire other women and break their prejudices. A similar action at the beginning of a career path: Choose a proper mentor and make sure that you are capable of anything, is wanted.